On Love

‘Love is an open doooooooor.’  ♫♪♫♪

I’m pretty sure most of you are familiar with this song. Nowadays, there are so many definitions of love that someone actually likened it to an open door. But what does it really mean? Don’t worry, I won’t even get to the many different types of love, only the one type that matters the most.

My favorite chapter in the Bible defines it all too well:

“I Corinthians 13

If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

 

I think Paul was onto something when he wrote this book. After all he has been through, all the hardships, the condemnation, the physical and emotional pain, he still can teach us so much about Love. We say we know how to love, but the truth is, we’re not even halfway there. Love is not just something we feel out of emotions. It’s the very essence of everything we do on this earth. The chapter above basically says that all your talk, actions, and hardships would amount to nothing, if you didn’t do it out of love. Love for others, just as Christ love the church. It’s difficult to grasp the concept because humans tend to be selfish. I admit, most of the time I would still prioritize myself when it comes to doing something. It’s in our very nature. That’s where God’s grace comes in. See, God loves us just as we are. We don’t even have to change our hairstyle, or our clothes, or put on make up, and do charity. He loves us as we are. He accepts us, curves and edges and all. Of course, once you feel that love, you are compelled to be better, just so we can be worthy of that love. But nevertheless, His love still never change.

All my life I think I had it all wrong. I was looking for someone to love me. I was too blind to the things of this world and their concept of love that I was actually looking for it. I even tried to change myself just to get that love. But I don’t need to, it’s been there all along. And once I found it, everything became easier. Seeing other people, trying to understand them, being a better person. Most importantly, I started loving myself more. It took me long enough to realize that. But I’m glad for it, or else, I would’ve been trapped in my own version of love. God’s love is much, much, much better. ❤

 

Hey it’s Wednesday!

How’s your week been so far?

Til next time!

 

XOXO,

Jinkay ❤

 

 

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Shoot a gun, or an arrow. Ride a bike. Climb a mountain. Learn to dance. Travel solo. Swim with the fishes. Sing in public. Act crazy. Fall in love.

You don’t even need a reason to do it. You just do. ^_^

Have a great weekend.

XOXO,

Jinkay ❤

Dear Future Lover Of Mine, I Hope I Don’t Meet You Anytime Soon..

Dear You,

I don’t know your name. I don’t know who you are or where you are or when we will ever meet. I don’t know whether or not you are already in my life somewhere. I don’t even know if you exist in this lifetime. I’d like to believe you’re walking this earth someplace, but sometimes I’m not sure if I even believe in the idea of fate and romance anymore. Maybe you can save me from myself.

If you are in this lifetime and on this planet though, I hope I don’t meet you anytime soon. I have a lot to learn and I will probably hurt you, because I don’t know yet that you are the one who will make me happy.

I’ve been through a lot. But while I wish you could have been there with me, I know you will be proud of me because of how strong I turned out to be and all the things I made it through without you. See, I had to be alone for a while so I’d know what I’m capable of. And so I’d appreciate having someone like you more.

I like being single right now because all my time is mine. I need to be single for a while so I will not regret not having this kind of freedom in the future. When I’m yours, I’ll be completely yours because I had this time to be mine.

But sometimes I miss being in love. There are days when I wish you can get here faster just so I can have the kind of love that I’ve been waiting for since what feels like forever. But I guess it’s better that you’re not here yet because I don’t know how to be with you right now. I’ll probably say a lot of really stupid things and scare you away.

You won’t just be the love of my life, you will also be my best friend in the world. I’d always thought of all my old loves as best friends at the time, but I don’t think I ever really knew what that meant. I love that I will be able to tell you anything and everything and know that you will be the one person in the world who understands.

We won’t always get along and we will more-than-possibly get into some really ugly fights, but I know that in the end, we can make it through because nothing is more important than learning and growing together.

We are probably different people with diverse interests, and that’s a good thing. We will make time for what is important to the other because we like making each other happy. Of course, there will be things that we enjoy doing together. We will spend some days curled up with a blanket and books or popcorn and a good movie. A Walk to Remember will always be a favorite between us, and reruns of HOW I MET YOUR MOTHER will take up some of our lazy Sundays. But we will spend most of our time going around the world together, seeing places we’ve only once dreamed of traveling to.

We both love to talk and laugh, and we will spend a lot of our time getting to know each other. Even when we’ve been together 20 years, we will always find something new about the other or reminisce about the people we once had to be to get there. And while I will probably roll my eyes at your jokes, I will also smile just because it’s so cute how you tried to tell the punch line.

You’ve probably loved a girl (or more) before me, and that’s okay. I’m sorry though if you’ve gotten hurt and I wasn’t there to make you feel better. I’ve been in love before you, too, and I’ve also gotten my heart broken and feel like nobody could really understand. It will take a long time before I can let anyone else in again, and maybe you feel the same way. It will be better to find each other after going through all that, just so we will both know how to not take being in love for granted.

We’ve both become better people separately, something I will always be thankful for. And because of all the pain we have to go through before we meet, we will both realize then that we deserve that happiness and we deserve each other.

I don’t know what you look like but I know you have kind eyes and a genuine smile. I don’t know what you do for a living but I know that you will have time for me. I don’t know you, but I know that you can give me a hug when I’m down, hold my hand for no reason and kiss me just because you love me.

There’s a possibility though, that you don’t exist, and I’m writing this letter for no one. But in spite of all that, I believe that you’re out there somewhere. I believe that all the heartache I’d ever had to endure will someday lead me to you. I believe that God created you because He knew I would need you. And while I know I’m a complete person on my own, I have to believe that someone like you exists, someone who might not complete me, but can make life better. More beautiful. More colorful. A man who can make me believe in love again.

I don’t know who you are or if I’ll ever find you, but I wish with all my heart that you’re out there, waiting, just like I am.
I know that someday I will find you. In this lifetime, or the next, I will find you.

Yours (Someday),
Me

 

Disclaimer:  This letter is not mine, I found it in FB from a friend of a friend’s wall post. I altered some details to make it seem more like my own. However, it caught my attention and I felt what the writer was trying to convey, so I wanted to share it as well.

I hope you all like it. Don’t stop hoping ❤

 

XOXO,

Jinkay ❤

You are where you should be right now

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I Corinthians 7:17 (NIV)  Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.

For the past few days, or even weeks, I’ve been having a depressive pool of thoughts. Whenever I feel overwhelmed by so many things, I tend to focus on a different thing and put aside the things that are bothering me. Not very healthy, I know. So eventually, it’s just there, hanging like a cloud waiting to rain on me. Mostly it’s about future things and my career and what I really want to do with my life. Sometimes it’s about my dreams, and also the past. I really was on the verge of just calling my mom and telling her that I want to go back home. Things would be easier that way. But then, I would be running away again, and I’ve done a lot of that in my life.

Thankfully, I stumbled upon this verse. It actually came from reading a blog post about God’s calling in your life. Amazingly, a great sense of comfort came over me after reading this verse. And I can’t believe how stupid I have been for worrying at all. I’m still in the process of learning the ‘art’ of letting go and letting God take over, in every aspect of my life. The devil is very tricky, he attacks my weakness. But then, I know myself that I cannot let him win over, because that would be like giving up. And I am not a quitter. How can I, when I’ve got God by my side. 🙂

Okay, it’s a beautiful day! Be blessed!

XOXO,

Jinkay ♥